友谊是否什么意思吗
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友谊是否什么意思吗？
文本先生布鲁克斯，马丁，罗伯特和吉恩正在采访了友谊的主题
。布鲁克斯：我认为友谊是
生命无论你的状态，已婚或未婚的最重要的事情之一。我看到太多的孤独的人
左右。我们很
多人得到与物质价值，家庭问题，涉及“攀比”等，我们忘了友谊的真正含义。采访者：这
是什么，根据你的。
?布鲁克斯：他们说，'有需要的朋友是一个“这部分是真实的，但没有
一个真
正的朋友也应该是矩的感觉是吃醋能够分享您的快乐。良好的友谊是您接受和原谅的错误，
理解的情绪，不觉得伤如果有朋友不喜欢看到你。当然，诚信是任何reIationship的重要组
成部分。它们是什么，我们应该学会接受我们的朋友。采访者：作为一个已婚男人，你觉得
frier
船舶与其他男人？
布鲁克斯：当然不是我的妻子和我有米，女性朋友谢天谢地。 ALthouhg家
庭生活充实，它
不是nough！我的妻子和我从tremendc满意我们的朋友，结婚一个单一的，
男性和女性，我
们都公顷我们分开的朋友。我们希望与对方觉得无聊，如果我们有相同的朋友！
记者：你必须有一个完整的人生。布鲁克斯：我们当然做，正如我所说，我们的朋友给我们
很多的乐趣
！。毕竟，朋友不应该与他们的人。消磨时间。真正的友谊，在我看来，是一个
“精神上的发展”的经验
。（马丁，罗伯特和让友谊的主题采访。 ）
记者：如何重要的是朋友给你，马丁？
鲍：我
从来没有很多朋友。我从来没有被视为特别s这就是他们，因为我从
一个大famil两个兄弟和三个姐
妹。和其它的表兄弟。这是什么我真的很重要。我的家人。
我的家庭的不同成员。如果你真的需要帮助，
你从你的家人，不要你吗？好了，至少这就是
我总是发现。采访者：你怎么样，让？
美齐：我的友谊... ...有朋友，我知道我真的可以依靠的人... ...
我的生命
中最重要的事情。更重要的，甚至比。爱如果你爱一个人，你总是可以爱的秋天再
次，可以leadto
很多伤感情，辛酸，等。但是一个很好的朋友，是生活中的朋友。采访者：
究竟你的意思是朋友吗？
美齐：嗯，我alreadys说，你知道你可以依靠的人。我想我真正的意思是...
...让我们来看看，
我应该如何去把这个。 。
。谁wili帮助你，如果你需要帮助，who'il听你的话时，请您谈
谈您的??问题...
...有人可以信任的人。采访者：你的意思是经朋友介绍，罗伯特？
罗伯特的人喜欢同样的东西，你
这样做，你可以说并没有失去自己的脾气，即使你并不总是
同意的事情。我的意思是某人你没有跟所有的
时间，但可以与也许沉默。这也是重要的。您
可以坐在一起，不是说非常多，有时。放松。我不喜欢的人
谈所有的时间。记者：你在保持
接触与您的朋友，如果你不经常看到他们的好？
罗伯特：不，
并非总是如此。我住在piaces地段，说实话，当我搬走，我经常这样做漂移脱
节与我或朋友。我不
是一个很好的信作家，无论是。永远都没有。但我知道，如果我再看到
那些朋友，如果我搬回到相同的地
方，其他一些原因，我们回来了密切接触，我敢肯定，像
从前那样的友谊将同样强劲。美齐：我的几个朋
友都搬走了，结婚了，这样的事情。我的一
位朋友生了一个孩子，最近，我承认我没有看到她或hear
from她就像我uesd的... ...她住在
另一个居委会和whenI电话她，她总是显得忙碌
。但是，这是一个例外。我写了很多信给我
的朋友，并得到了很多从他们的信件。我有一个朋友，我去学
校，10年前，她移居加拿大，
但她仍然写信给我每一个妈妈和我一样经常给她写信。
文本B
需要帮助的朋友
您和Sol已超过15年的朋友。你去高中，现在工作在同一公司pany。
在过去的几个月中，
溶胶一直很暴躁，有时公开批评该公司和他的一些工友自己的情绪。在办公室的人都
知道，
他有时喝太多，当他感到郁闷，他的一些个人和家庭问题。
但最近溶胶
hurt'one在办公室的人很讨厌的个人意见。没有人说什么给他，但很明显，很多
人愤怒，他说什
么，现在对他有一点同情。
你开始怀疑你是否应该说些什么，以溶胶。你不认为他是你最好的朋友，但
他有可能会失去
工作，因为你没有尽力帮助他。另一方面，你不知道，是否溶??胶会认为你是在谈论他
的个
人问题干涉他的privatu iife。在这种情况下，你会做什么？
Additioaal信息
事实上，友谊的研究似乎牵连更多的eomplex因素。 ex
ampte，一个功能友谊似乎futfil的
是，它支持我们自己的形象，并确认了我们所持的态度价
值。当然，我们似乎投射到自己的
朋友，一些研究表明，我们判断他们更加像我们比他们（客观）。 <
br>这表明（“异性相吸”），一个经验证据的支持，至少到目前为止预测的态度，我们应该选择
谁是
我们类似，而不是那些将补充（“一丘之貉”的朋友）和信仰有关。在一项实验中，一
些发展中国家的友
谊进行了监测，其中包括第一年的学生住在同一宿舍。
态度（对政治，宗教和道德，消遣和美学）的相
似性，是一个很好的预测什么样的友谊将成
立由4个月内结束，虽然少做最初的联盟 -
这并不奇怪，因为它被发现第一次检查的态度
可能不是很明显。
也有研究的配对，双方自愿（
已婚夫妇）样品）和强迫学生室友，看到仍然在一起，分裂。
再次，证据似乎有利于作为一个成功的关系
的预兆，而不是互补的相似性，虽然是一个复杂
的婚姻而言，一旦该领域已收窄到类似背景的潜在配偶和
共享广泛态度和价值观，一定程度
的互补性，似乎成为可取的。
当一对夫妇不只是相似，但几
乎相同的，别的东西似乎是必要的。相似品种蔑视;它也被发
现，当我们发现别人厌恶，我们不喜欢他们
，如果他们喜欢我们时相比，他们是不一样的的！
连接与性格相似的友谊的难度，可能反映了我们的性
格的复杂性：我们有很多方面，因此需
要一个不同的朋友，支持我们。当然，这可以解释为什么我们可以
有两个亲密的朋友，他们
有共同之处，确实不喜欢对方。大，虽然，它看起来好像我们会做的选择像我们
的朋友（及
配偶）。如果不是这样，计算机约会机构就已经歇业年前。
What Does
Friendship Mean to You？
Text A Mr Brooks,
Martin, Robert and Jean are being interviewed on
subject of friendship. Mr
BROOKS： I consider
friendship to be one of the most important things
in life-whatever your
status, married or
single. I see too many lonely people around. A lot
of us get so involved with
material values,
family problems, 'keeping up with the Joneses,'
etc. , that we forget the real
meaning of
friendship. INTERVIEWER： Which is what., according
to you？
R BROOKS： They say `a friend in need
is a ' which is partly true, but a real friend
should also be able to share your happy
moments- without feeling jealous. A good
friendship is
one where you accept and forgive
faults, understand moods, and don't feel hurt if a
friend doesn't
feel like seeing you. Of
course, honesty is an essential part of any
reIationship. We should learn to
accept our
friends for what they are. INTERVIEWER： As a
married man, do you find your frier
ships are
only with other men？
MR BROOKS： Of course not！
Both my wife and I have m and women friends-thank
goodness.
ALthouhg family life is fulfilling,
it isn't nough！ Both my wife and I get tremendc
satisfaction
from our friends, married a
single, male and female-and we both ha our
separate friends too. We'd
get bored with each
other if we had the same friends！
INTERVIEWER：
You must have a full life. MR BROOKS： We certainly
do！ And as I say, our
friends give us a lot of
pleasure. After all, friends should not be people
with whom .you kill time.
Real
friendship, in my opinion, is a 'spiritually
developing' experience.（Martin, Robert and Jean
are being interviewed on the subject of
friendship. ）
INTERVIEWER： How important are
friends to you, Martin？
MARTIN： I've never had
a lot of friends. I've never regarded them as
particularly
s that's because I come from a
big famil Two brothers and three sisters. And lots
cousins. And that's what's really important
me. My family. The different members of my family.
If
you really need help, you get from your
family, don't you？ Well, at least that's what I've
always
found. INTERVIEWER： What about you,
Jean？
JEAN： To me friendship„„ having friends,
people I know I can really count on„„
to me
that's the most important thing in life. It's more
important even than . love If you love
someone, you can always fall out of love again
, and that can leadto a lot of hurt feelings ,
bitterness, and so on. But a good a friend is
a friend for life. INTERVIEWER： And what exactly
do you mean by a friend？
JEAN： Well, I've
alreadys said, someone you know you can count on.
I suppose what I really
mean is„„ let's see,
how am I going to put this . . . it's someone who
wili help you if you need
help, who'il listen
to you when you talk about you problems„„ someone
you can trust.
INTERVIEWER： What do you mean
by a friend, Robert？
ROBERT： Someone who likes
the same things that you do, who you can argue
with and not lose
your temper, even if you
don't always agree about things. I mean someone
who you don't have to
talk to all the time but
can be silent with perhaps. That's important, too.
You can just sit together
and not say very
much sometimes. Just relax. I don't like people
who talk all the time.
INTERVIEWER： Are you
very good at keeping in touch with your friends if
you don't see them
regularly？
ROBERT： No,
not always. I've lived in lots of piaces, and , to
be honest , once I move away I
often do drift
out of touch with my or friends. And I'm not a
very good letter writer, either. Never
have
been. But I know that if I saw those friends
again, if I ever moved back to the same place, for
some other reason we got back into close
contact again, I'm sure the friendship would be
just as
strong as it was before. JEAN： Several
of my friends have moved away, got married, things
like
that. One of my friends has had a baby
recently, and I'll admit I don't see her or
hearfrom her as
much as I uesd to…… She lives
in another neighbourhood and whenI phone her, she
always
seems busy. But that's an exception. I
write a lot of letters to my friends and get a lot
of letters
from them. I have a friend I went
to school with and ten years ago she emigrated to
Canada, but
she still writes to me every mom
and I write to her just as often.
Text B
A
Friend in Need of Help
You and Sol have been
friends for over fifteen years. You went to high
school together and now
work in the same
company pany. For the past several months , Sol
has been very irritable and at
times has shown
his emotions by openly criticizing the company and
some of his fellow workers.
Most of the people
in the office know that he sometimes drinks too
much when he feels depressed
about some of his
personal and family problems.
But recently Sol
made a very nasty personal comment which hurt'one
of the people in the office.
No one said
anything to him, but it was obvious that many
people were angry at what he said and
now have
little sympathy for him .
You are beginning to
wonder whether you should say something to Sol.
You don't consider him
your best
friend, but he might possibly lose his job because
you didn't try to help him. On the
other hand,
you don't know whether Sol would think that you
were interfering in his privatu iife
by
talking about his personal problems. What would
you do in this situation？
Additioaal
Information
In fact, studies of friendship
seem to implicate more eomplex factors. For
exampte, one function
friendship seems to
futfil is that it supports the image we have of
ourselves, and confirms the
value of the
attitudes we hold. Certainly we appear to project
ourselves onto our friends； several
studies
have shown that we judge them to be more like us
than they （objectively） are.
This suggests
that we ought to choose friends who are similar to
us （ 'birds of a feather' ） rather
than those
who would be complementary （ 'opposites attract' ）
, a prediction which is supported
by empirical
evidence , at least so far as attitudes and
beliefs are concerned. In one experiment,
some
developing friendships were monitored amongst
first-year students living in the same hostel.
It was found that similarity of attitudes
（towards politics, religion and ethics, pastimes
and
aesthetics） was a good predictor of what
friendships would be established by the end of
four
months, though it had less to do with
initial alliances - not surprisingly, since
attitudes may not be
obvious on first
inspection.
There have also been studies of
pairings, both voluntary （married couples） ples ）
and forced
（student roommates ） , to see which
remained together and which split up. Again, the
evidence
seems to favour similarity rather
than complementarity as an omen of a successful
relationship,
though there is a complication：
where marriage is concerned, once the field has
been narrowed
down to potential mates who come
from similar backgrounds and share a broad range
of attitudes
and values, a degree of
complementarity seems to become desirable.
When a couple are not just similar but almost
identical, something else seems to be needed.
Similarity can breed contempt； it has also
been found that when we find others obnoxious, we
dislike them more if they are like us than
when they are dissimilar！
The difficulty of
linking friendship with similarity of personality
probably reflects the complexity
of our
personalities： we have many facets and therefore
require a disparate group of friends to
support us. This of course can explain why we
may have two close friends who have little in
common, and indeed dislike each other. By and
large, though, it looks as though we would do well
to choose friends （and spouses） who resemble
us. If this were not so, computer dating agencies
would have gone out of business years ago